A Summer Love Story

May 20th. June is around the corner, and it feels like the start of the summer is finally here. I’m estatic for a couple reasons. First, it’s summer (!!), and I just really love the pool, beach, sun, and everything else associated with the season. This also means we have interns coming. We have first years coming which means I will be promoted from a lowly first year to a lowly second year. Running in the park is so much more enjoyable when the sun is shining in your face and you’re working on that nice bronze-y tan. My friends and I have booked a trip to the Hamptons (I’ve never been!). My roommates family is moving to a condo in New Jersey with a pool, and finally, I’m working on putting together our summer social calendar, and planned social events always get me excited.

Our first event will probably take place in the near future. Planning has been a bit of the challenge living with two other bankers and  a consultant who is currently staffed in Brazil, but I think we’re focused on having a small event with a couple close friends to celebrate the start of summer together. 

We’re thinking about doing personalized invitations…. (I’ve included some of our inspiration below)

  

 

 

… and a small bites. Tentative menu includes: fresh fruit, oven-roasted pesto shrimp skewers, crostini with fava bean spread and mint, mini strawberry cheesecakes, a red raspberry champagne cocktail, and sangria.

We’re also redecorating our apartment to create a more al fresco dining feel – think small white lights, foilage, and cool wire wicker chairs (if we can afford it!).

What are some of your plans for the summer?

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Half a year in banking… incomplete

Over half a year into investment banking means a couple things – it means that for the half of us who are not rockstars, instead of feeling 100% incompetent, we only feel 90% incompetent (rockstars may only feel 20-30% incompetent); it means that you’ve probably looked in the mirror and don’t recognize yourself through the 5-10 pounds you’ve put on from just sitting there as typing rapidly on your keyboard does not constitute exercise, and for most people, it means private-equity hosted lunches, dinners, and interviews.

I came into investment banking pretty narrowminded–I was pretty sure I did not want to pursue private equity. However, I was narrow-minded for the silliest reasons: Since the entire sea of first-years in my training-class were so excited about this wonderful exit-opportunity, I wanted to be different. I wanted to be special.

I no longer feel special, but I do feel burnt out.

Through October – February, I engaged in the great internal debate. I opened my mind to private equity, I got excited about areas within private equity (growth equity and venture capital), and then I slowly withdrew once again. I was torn in the most annoying way. In those moments where it was my excel and me, or my running shoes and me, or my family and me, it be easy to shun private equity. I didn’t want it like others wanted it. I didn’t even want it like I’ve wanted other things in life – Siemens / Intel Talent search awards, good SAT scores, MIT, chairman of my business club, the list goes on… Perhaps the things I wanted in the past were relatively trivial, but the bottom line was I wanted them and I pursued them.

I came across one of my first conclusions about myself: I have never pursued something I didn’t want.

Perhaps this has to do with the fact that my parents are surprisingly non-Asian in mentality. They never pushed me to do anything but to try my best. I remember taking home a 30% on a biology test in middle school (keep in mind, the average was an 80%). My mom asked me if I tried my best, and I said I had (clearly I had not, in retrospect), and that was the end of that conversation. So no matter how hard I tried to make time to LBO-model on the weekends, come up with investment ideas, memorize the details to each project I worked on, and read up on industry trends, I always came up short.

I think I started writing this post at work in Februrary, and I never finished it. I felt like the convoluted message that was not finished was a good one, but a very timing specific one, and half a year later, it seems facicious to try to complete it. I think what this has really taught me is that some posts need to be penned, not perfected, at the moment or else the meaning is lost and no longer significant.

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Welcoming the New Year

I had some grand delusional idea that I was going to manage to post my New Years resolution by, well, the beginning of the New Year. Then, when I missed that goal, I figured I might as well post when I got back to New York the day before work started (1/2/2012). Then, when I missed that goal, I figured that this would be a good opportunity for me to just focus on posting once a week on the weekend (Sunday), and the first Sunday after the New Year is: 1/8/2012. When that failed, I decided that I really had to get myself into gear, so I am posting now… 1/22/2012. Here is to a New Year.

NEW YEARS RESOLUTION v. 2012

(1) Drink more water

Rationale: Really, the goal is to be more healthy, but given the restrictions that work imposes, it’s very difficult/close to impossible to achieve goals like “Exercise 4 times a week” or “Sleep 8 hours a day.” I am completely dependent on vitamin water, coffee, and other such substances, so I’m going to try to make a commitment to substitute in water for all my overly-sugary addictions.

(2) Start managing my own money

Rationale: I tend to be the type of person that buy’s something and won’t really even comprehend the price. I realized this when I left work one day to buy a pair of apple headphones, and when I came back, my associate asked me how much they were. I had no idea despite the fact that I had purchased them less then 15 minutes ago. Working 80-100 hours/week will always seem unfortunate. What will seem even more unfortunate is if I manage to save no money over the upcoming two years.

(3) Try to maintain a positive attitude

Rationale: I’d like to think that I’m generally a happy person; however, I’ve noticed recently that I’ll have longer slump persiods. Work will seem endless and get me down. I hear about how many people just reach a breaking-point during their two-analyst years in this job and come changed – much more jaded. I’d like to avoid that, if at all possible, and I think one way to do that is to make a commitment to not dwelling on non-positive feelings.

(4) Never eat alone (figuratively, not literally)

Rationale: It’s so easy to just eat in your cube because you’re jammed with work and you don’t particularly want to socialize, but I think its important to eat with others – it helps you bond with colleagues, keep in touch with friends, and makes meal-time more fun and engaging!

(5) Blog each week by Sunday

Rationale: I believe a pivotal part to achieving (3) is reclaiming some control over your life. I think one easy way to do this is to develop routines that are easy to keep. Blogging gives me time to reflect and is a routine that will probably be relatilvely easy to maintain.

Hope everyone is enjoying the Giants vs. 49ers game!

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mental progression

Last night at my annual family Christmas gathering, my cousin’s blog came up, and the general discussion revolved around how to differentiate oneself in the rapidly changing online media space. There were two points that I took away from the conversation. First, you need to have a point of view, and second, there needs to be a specific reason that you, the author, are the best person to express and explore this point of view. For example, he’s one of two author’s of a blog that teaches social skills to those who need it, and you should read his blog and listen to his advice because he’s a mathematician at Harvard. He’s in an environment with a number of socially adept individuals, but comes from a background where it makes sense that, he, himself, has struggled with this exact issue.

C in my coffee has never had a specific topic or theme. I’ve always thought that was ideal as it let me have the freedom to write about whatever pleases me at the moment. However, there are a couple downsides. First, I never end up developing an audience because the blog travels in 100 different directions. Second, the blog becomes a very far after thought in an already over-crowded life.

I’ve had some time to catch up on a number of things during the Christmas weekend, and I’ve spent some time thinking about potential themes and topics. I’ve settled on two broad topics, and will hopefully over the year begin to develop a more specific point of view. I ultimately want to make this a lifestyle blog derived from the intersection of my woefully underdeveloped but still present interest in fashion and art; a fast-paced, often too-busy career in investment banking; my interest in the intersection of media and technology; and my unwavering love for caffine. I am going to try to make the commitment to blog at least once a week on one of these topics.

I hope everyone’s had a wonderful Chrstimas and is looking forward to New Years. I know I am.

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i am a romantic schizophrenic

“I am a romantic schizophrenic.”

One of the first aspects of the exhibit that catches the viewer’s attention is this beautifully painted quote. What does it mean to be a romantic schizophrenic? A schizophrenic means someone who suffers from schizophrenia (a mental disorder characterized by a disintegration of the process of thinking and of emotional responsiveness – thank you Wikipedia); however, if I had to think of a non-disease related definition of a schizophrenic, I would have to say a state of being contradictory, incapable of focusing on a single thing, and insane. Romanticism from a classical perspective is a literary, artistic, and intellectual movement that celebrated emotions, intuition, imagination, and the natural. These definitions don’t do much in terms of helping me understand what McQueen meant by this, however. Does he mean he’s, himself, is a schizophrenic whose work is steeped in romanticism, that his work schizophrenically exhibits romanticism-eque traits? Or perhaps he wasn’t even looking at romantic in the academic sense of the word but rather a more traditional sense of chocolate and long walks on a picturesque starry night, not that this really illuminates me either.

 I’m opposed in my thoughts on the quote and the entire exhibit, so perhaps in some ways this quote is perfect, because part of me relishes in the unique and rather beautiful juxtaposition of two words, and the other part wonders what was the purpose of placing this quote at the beginning of the exhibit. Its goal, perhaps, is to lure the viewer in, engage the imagination, but discourage the need to delve beyond the surface.

Before I commence with my rant, I’d like to say that I am glad that I went. Can I say that it was worth the 4.5 hour wait? Not so sure. 

Each piece is a wonderfully crafted and beautifully presented oddity, and looking in retrospect, the entire exhibit exuded a ‘melancholy’ mystique with its wonderful embellisments, the music selection (A Scent of Intrigue by Tony Hymas), the whimsically pattered wallpaper, antique gilded mirrors, and masks, lots and lots of masks.

There were two key aspects of the exhibit that detracted from my personal enjoyment. First, the use of said masks distorted the entire exhibit in my opinion. The fact that the masks were created by a third party for the sole purpose of being used in this exhibit made me feel question the entire exhibit’s integrity. It was difficult to take anything at its face value. Second, I had an issue with the overuse of the word ‘melancholy’. It’s completely understandable that one word may perfectly capture everything the writer is intending to express; however, overuse will always make things feel just a little bit trite.

 Now, onto what confused me. I think I have always struggled with positionining fashion relative to the rest of the visual art genre, and I think a lot of that has been because I never truly understood what the purpose of fashion is — Is it suppose to be a form of expression of the creator? The wearer? Is it suppose to be beautiful? realistic? commercial? Should the purpose be to document? If it is an art, is it expected to be cutting edge and evolve just like the arts have? I’ve never been forced to come to any firm conclusions. As I wandered, no, actually purposely directected myself through the exhibit, because how can you wander when there are so many people pushing and shoving to get to the front and really examine McQueen’s work, I couldn’t help but struggle.

Throughotu the exhibit, I definitely saw a forcibly drawn parallel between McQueen and Diane Arbus (documentary photographer), Paul Gauguin (post impressionist and primitivism artist), and the Romantics (no I am not talking about the movie). With such active positioning within the art scene, I can’t help but let my opinions on each of the above influence my impression of McQueen.

The connection to Diane Arbus stems predominantly from one of the carefully selected quotes painted on the wall: “I find beauty in the grotesque, like most artists. I have to force people to look at things.” It reminds me of the picture of the “deformed” boy with the toy grenade in central park and the giant and his two parents. It also brings up the fact that Arbus chose the exact picture to display. Instead of forcing people to look at what as there and real, she purposely chose the photograph that looked the most odd and deformed. How is that a fair portrayal?

With Gauguin, it was use of scales, feathers, skin (human and not), essentially the natural. With the Romantics it was the excessive use of themes like empowerment of the individual (in McQueen’s case, specifically the empowerment of females); the emphasis on fantasy, creativity, and the imagination (e.g. “There is no way back for me now. I am going to take you on journeys you’ve never dreamed of.”); and the dark grotesqueness of the entire exhibition. Each of these themes were touched upon, but not fully explored, and I’m not sure whether this is because McQueen failed to fully delve into each topic or if because the exhibition strove to be comprehensive.

In the end, the exhibition left me with more questions than answers. McQueen’s aesthetic is more tangible to me now in a way where I know I can expect to be surprised, but that really isn’t understanding an aesthetic is it? It’s more knowing that you really just don’t understand.

In conclusion, I wanted to finish this draft (without pictures, which will come one day), which is long overdue, as: “It’s important to look at death because it is a part of life. It is a sad thing, melancholy but romantic at the same time. It is the end of a cycle. Everything has to end. The cycle of life is positive because it gives room for new things.”

I need to move on.

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Work Inspired

Given that I’ll be entering the corporate world in a few months, I’ve tried desperately to change my mindset while shopping. This summer, I realized how under-prepared I and my wardrobe were to take on New York. I found myself reaching for the same few cardigans, cashmere v-necks, button-downs, and black dresses week after week. Even worse, I found difficult to compromise between my own self-expression and the conservativeness of my surroundings. I’d like to start off my two years in banking a little differently.

As a college-aged female, I gravitate towards a combination of comfortable t-shirts, gladiator sandals, denim, tunics, leggins, cardigans, fun gaudy jewelry, and flats. Comfortable, yes. Workplace appropriate, not so much.

I stared a folder on my computer dedicated to what I consider workplace-appropriate inspiration for future outfits, and I figured I’d share some of the images on this blog. I would like to add the additional comment that each image should not be taken holistically as a workplace-appropriate outfit. Often when I look at the images often only parts of the image catch my eye.

With that being said, here’s is what I keep in mind when I troll through the mall in search of pieces to enhance my wardrobe.

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Resolution(s)

While it’s a little late for New Years resolutions, I figured I’d share mine with you.

(1) Call home more regularly – As a college student studying in a location far away from home and as an individual who is notoriously lax about correspondence, I will say that I have been not so good at remaining in contact with my family. Lucky for me my parents and sister are not people who take such antics too seriously; however, this is an area that needs rapid improvement.

(2) Really embrace my last semester of my undergraduate experience - I’ve often regretted a couple choices I’ve made as an undergraduate. For example, as a double major, I haven’t had as much freedom as I would have liked to take classes that interest me. I’ve entered my final semester with a need to take three math classes, but a desire to take an architecture class, a philosophy class, another film class, an art history class, a painting class, a photography class, a literature class, a writing class, and the list goes on. I feel like there are so many things I would have liked to study or learn in college, but given the temporal limitations, I will have to make the most of the remaining 16 or so weeks. In short, I would like to learn as much as I can, meet and interact wide variety of personalities, and try as many new things as possible.

(3) Discovery my internal sense of style - I don’t believe style is a stagnant thing. I’ve always told my boyfriend that personal style is just one form of self expression, particularly when he’s criticizing my personal style. However, I’ve come to the conclusion that I do go to a technical institution where most people do not care how they dress. I, myself, am not super stylish, and when posed with the question, “How do you describe your personal style?” can come up with no answer. I’ve also realized that this is the last semester where I can really try a variety of styles without any sort of restrictions. At work, there are only so many ways to interpret business casual, and I am definitely do not want to be making fashion faux pas during a time where I’m trying to legitimize myself in the finance world. Therefore, I want to spend this last semester really trying out new things and figuring out what works best on my petite yet not waif-like frame.

(4) Be more open and less judgmental – According to the Briggs Myers personality test, I am a ENFJ (Extrovert, Intuition, Feeling, and Judging) and most people can guess that I am an E and a J. Supposedly as an extrovert, judging is a dominant function (correct me if I am wrong as I am no expert in Briggs Myers personality types). While I’ve never viewed either as particularly bad, there are definitely moments where I feel like I’ve reached a conclusion too quickly and require too much regularity and order in my life that I negatively affect those around me. Therefore, I would like to spend the upcoming year working to accept more (spontaneity, people, situations, etc…) from life.

Yup, that’s all folks. Any New Years Resolutions?

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Christmas in California

{ Chandelier in the dining room + fresh flowers }

I’ve fallen a little behind on the posting, as per usual. My semester has ended, and I’ve been home for about two weeks now. Being home during the holidays has always meant parties, parties, and more parties with neighbors, family, family friends, my dad’s colleagues, my dad’s college classmates, etc…

I was trying to avoid staffing by my mom and managed to take some pictures with my new prime lens. It’s not auto-focus because I’m using a Nikon D40, so many of the pictures are slightly out of focus. These might be the only nice pictures from the holidays as my camera has run out of batteries, and I stupidly did not bring my charger home.

{ Dining room table – Christmas themed! }

{ Christmas tree and second table in the background }

{ Fresh flowers on the coffee table }

These were from a party with our neighbors, although most of the parties at my house look the same as my mom just uses the same place settings. The only thing that really shifts is the appetizer table and the third table (which depends on how many people are attending the party).

We only had three wines available which ended up being okay as every family brought at least one bottle of wine. By the end of the night there must have been 10 wines and champagnes out on the table.

{ Some wines to go with appetizers }

It’s New Years and I’m stuck at home because I’m sick. I hope everyone else out there is enjoying a splendid New Years. Here is to hoping that I will blog more in 2011.

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Collateral Damage

I’m disappointed in the institution I attend. I’m disappointed in the callousness it has exhibited and the nature in which it has disregarded the impact of its’ actions on the lives of its’ constituents.

A fraternity was recently disbanded due to certain violations, and while I understand, that to some degree the inter-fraternity council and the administration needs to set a strong precedent, they seem to have completely detach themselves from all human/humane-considerations. It hasn’t passed through their conscience that they are not only penalizing three pledge classes for a generation worth of violations (and I use this in the loosest sense) but also attempting to obliterate their support network so that those individuals can’t even turn to each other during this difficult time. Is making an example of this fraternity really worth destroying the college experience for these boys? A natural response would be that the punishment must fit the crime… Sometimes, I wish people cared less about appearing like they made the right decision and actually make the right decision.

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No Rest for the Wicked

I started this post about two weeks into work, when I was still adjusting to the fact that I might have to stay past midnight some nights and that working weekends would soon become the norm.

Since the beginning of this entry, a lot has changed. I’ve come to embrace post-midnight nights, so long as they aren’t post-2am nights. Somehow, when the clock inches closer and closer to 2am, I get increasingly despondent. I’ve also accepted that coming in on the weekends is not that bad, as long as you know ahead of time that you have weekend work and you aren’t spending 16+ hours a day in the office on the weekend.

The title to this post still reflects my thoughts on the job – there were countless nights this summer where the thing that I wanted most at that moment was sleep or coffee – so sad that that Starbucks near work closed at 10pm. Even though work ended almost a week ago, I’m still relaxing – curled up in a bed at the Inn at Laguna Beach. I got sick soon after my internship, and while I would love to be frolicking in the waves and making use of the heated pool, I found that I can’t really exert myself for extended periods of time without coughing up a storm.

Hopefully this upcoming week will help me become a little more rested and a little less wicked.

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